So, January 22 was Blog for Choice Day, and aside from a slight gripe about the US-centrism of the choice of date (the anniversary of Roe v. Wade), talking about the importance of reproductive freedom is, well, important. And there's a bunch of excellent posts that were made.
And hey, I've never been good with dates and deadlines that don't involve grades, and all that better late than never stuff, so I'm going to start off with something a bit more personal. Particularly since this year's topic was 'Why you're pro-choice'
Really, the list of reasons why I support reproductive freedom is pretty damn long, and much of it is covered by some of the wonderful people below, so I'm just going to outline a few, some of which are quite personal.
I support reproductive freedom because it reduces the number of children who grow up feeling as unwanted as I did. I grew up being told on a biweekly basis for about eight years that I wasn't wanted, and that's not counting how many times I was shown the same. I don't know how many other six year olds have been told, or shown, with such regularity just how unwanted they are, but I'm certain that it's many more than I'd like, or anyone should like.
I support reproductive freedom because I think it's an insult to the wonderful mothers I know to think that motherhood is merely a duty or some kind of punishment for having sex. Hell, I think it's an insult to
children to think they they're a punishment.
I support reproductive freedom because seeing pregancy as some kind of punishment for not having 'foolproof' sex, even if one supports the right to not choose motherhood (I'm looking at the adoption-not-abortion folks, here) obscures the real risks of pregnancy to women's well-being, obscures the quandries related to adoption, and really, is just kind of hateful. Because treating pregnancy as such means that only women are to be punished for the lack of 'foolproof' sex. And I'm just not down with that.
I support reproductive freedom because I think restricting the choices available to women with regards to their own reproduction and their own bodies, denies them a fundamental aspect of personhood, and displays a disturbing mistrust of women. And when I talk about restricting choices, I mean that I think forced pregnancy, forced abortion, forced birthing-method, forced sterilisation, denial of access to birth control, etc., are
wrong. Because, regardless of what anti-choicers keep saying, being pro-choice isn't just about abortion. It's about trusting women to make the whole spectrum of decisions. Some of these problems effect different groups of women differently. There have been advocates of forced sterilisation of women of colour and poor women because they're "having too many babies". There have been advocates of forced pregnancy for white women because "there aren't enough approriately white babies oh noes". The relationship between abortion and women with disabilities, or potentially disabled embryos can be troubling (and, incidentally, women with disabilities who ask whether there's an undercurrent of ableism involved in the decision to abort potentially disabled embryos aren't anti-choice. They're asking a question. Because given the society we live in, it's likely that there is. And y'know, most of them are probably going to understand women who don't have the resources or support to look after a child with a disability. Most of them are likely agitating for greater support for parents of children with disabilities. The point is whether you're thinking about it. And I think they have some right to at least ask the question, within reason. The right to choose doesn't mean you don't have to think about how privilege informs your choices. ).
And finally, I support reproductive freedom because if I didn't, and if feminists before me didn't fight for it, I'd currently have a child who deserved to be wanted more than I could want them. And yeah, because of that whole growing up thing, children being wanted is a big thing, for me. For some people adoption is enough to solve that issue, and that's great for them. Really. I think people who decide to put their children up for adoption, when freely choosing to do so, are deserving of a whole bunch of respect, because it's not something I could do. Because giving a child away after they're born, for me (and I'm emphasising the for me, here), isn't enough to quiet the little voice in my head telling me that I'd still be showing that child that they're not wanted. And I freely admit that this is a very personal thing, for me, and I'm really sorry, because I know it's probably coming across that I think adoption is bad, but I don't - my words are being clumsy. If I want children later in life (which is a pretty big if at this point, but stay with me), I'd probably adopt. Which may sound hypocritical, but really has a lot to do with the fact that what it comes down to is that
I don't think
I'm psychologicially capable of putting a child up for adoption, for reasons that pertain to all kinds of
my own shit, which I wouldn't dream of projecting onto other people, because it's MY shit.
And all of those things are also why I'm planning to volunteer for Children By Choice. Because whilst abortion wasn't really an agonising decision for me, because I'd thought a lot about it by the time I found myself pregnant, I know lots of other women need more support and help than I did in figuring out the decision that's right for them; women who need to be listened to and given the time and resources to make their own decisions, rather than have decisions made for them. And I want to contribute to that, and contribute to organisations that help that to happen.
But enough about me. Other people have said some awesome things. I don't normally quote, but this is a special edition after all.
( quotes and links behind the cut )